Work on Yourself

An unbalanced life, unbalanced in any way, is unlikely to be a good life. It is sure not to be a great life. If any one thing pulls you too much one way—like your job, say—then you might notice a sharp decline in your time and focus on finding love.

Are You a Workaholic?

A career is a selfish mistress, but who can avoid her? To get ahead in the workplace, you must constantly court and woo her. All of your time is hers or else another suitor might win your promotion. To have everything you dreamed for—a car, a home, a family, cared for and well-funded children—you must give up everything. Send the paycheck home by mail; schedule a video conference with your family.

It’s not a pleasant or fulfilling reality. And if you are single and a workaholic—if you don’t even have the family yet—how can you ever find that person to give one to you?

Prioritize

Face it. Hard for cash, for promotions, for success is no way to live. Our lives are ours. Our time is ours. Schedule time for the things you love. Schedule the time to find love. Find that partner who helps you to create and manage an exciting future.

We unbalance ourselves. We throw ourselves at something like a career or like an addiction or mania to avoid throwing ourselves into our lives. Since we are the culprits, though, it’s an easy change to make. To right ourselves and regain balance. Simply prioritize. Don’t promise more time to explore your happiness and wellbeing, devote time to it.

Give of Yourself

Workaholics give so much. They give their time and work to corporations or school systems. They give waking minutes and give up sleeping ones to give something of themselves to the workplace. They give so, so much.

But they give their work, when they need to give themselves.

We couple in pairs and share ourselves with another so that we may come into arms at night to something lovely, without earning it. Do not forego the repose you deserve.