Does the Bad Guy Get the Girl Because He's Bad?

The bad guy gets the girl, right? Nice guys finish last? That was the myth.

Even if we do not believe the myth to be completely true, some part of it holds water. Perhaps the myth is just self-fulfilling. The more we tell it, the more girls hear it, the more they believe and act on it. A different reason can explain this phenomenon, though. Bad guys do not get the girl because they are bad; they get the girls because they are confident and unapologetic. They live off of the beaten path. Like the men of old, the “bad guys” are the pioneers.

Pioneers cut the way for the herd, and their strength of character, confidence, and maverick natures quite naturally result in followers. Some portion of those followers are women. Bold and adventurous, leaders are sexy.

Debunk the Myth, Be Confident!

So if you are the nice guy in the original myth, how do you use the “bad” to get your girl?

Take the attractive attributes from the bad guy persona and adapt them to your own. To adapt their strength of character and confidence, for example, champion your line of work and your contributions within it when discussing it on a date or in a chat room. Do not ever say, “I am just a restaurant manager,” or “ I just clean the park.” Believe you are vital, and women will believe you are vital. Confidence comes from within you. If you are looking for it in other people, then you are falling back into the nice guy persona—the guy who people-pleases, apologetic for his own presence. Stay strong, do not second-guess your decisions or answers, and lead the way to a new dating frontier.

Does the bad guy get the girl because he is bad? No. He gets the girls because he believes he is entitled to his chance with her and acts accordingly. She is the new world he is want to discover. How could a woman fail to respond to that?